i had planned to write this in the later part of the day, but since i'm using the lappie to send out some urgent stuff just now i might as well write it now. got delayed cuz i was playing bejeweled blitz (i'm kinda obsessed with it. i broke my own record earlier on in the afternoon but the network didnt save! sadded).

anyway i met up with some friends/ex-colleagues last night. was chatting about what's happening in each other's lives when we came to the topic that we kinda talked alot about it back when we were working together: the relationship status of one of us (not me). caught up on the stories between her and her bf and i was quite surprised to hear that she is now in some sort of rough patch with him now, cuz back when she haven't got together with him, the impression that i had of the guy was that he is nice and everything.

so while chilling out at starbucks after dinner, i was telling my friend that she should really consider breaking up with her bf because well, if she is having thoughts like we're better off as friends (they were friends since secondary school), they should really switch back to the previous status. then she told me she is used to having a bf around to care for her and for her to care for him. which i can understand for her situation, because she's with her previous bf for like 7 years since secondary school until they broke up last year, and shortly after the breakup she got together with her current bf.

then i realised our difference. if what happened to her bf is applied to my bf i would have broken up with him straightaway and be mad at him for the longest time, yet my friend tolerated with him and her anger dissipated the following day after the discovery of that matter. she said that she would probably feel lonely if she broke up with him, and i can understand, because she's used to that kind of attached life. on the other hand for me, my life is quite packed with stjohn and i'm accustomed to singlehood, thus it is rare for me to feel bored. i mean, i still have games and books to fall back on even if there is no stjohn. not to mention school is starting next month!

what i didn't tell my friend is that she should start having a life without her bf at times, like going for yoga classes or something like that. and that she should not be comparing her bf with our common friend (who was with us last night) who is a superb bf (he bought a present for his gf for his birthday. lol! he said cuz she likes the bag and that the idea came to him last week. his birthday is coming soon), because well, i think guys don't like to be compared.

and after last night, the urge to stay single is stronger, because i do not want to be caught in an emotional turmoil like my friend, on top of other reasons like me having a higher possibility to choose to hang out with friends more than with bf (重友轻色 in other words), me don't want to be tied down and me wanting to roam around freely without having the need to tell anybody. after all, i was urging this same friend to break up with her previous bf along with the perfect bf/ex-colleague of mine last year because the relationship was not healthy and she's not forceful and determined enough to end the relationship. and now i'm doing the same thing, because she's not willing to let go even though she know that things are going wrong. i don't want to be blinded, because that ain't healthy. and i don't want too much complications in my life.

best wishes for my friend.
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